Why do coupled-up friends talk to singles as though we’ve never, ever had a relationship before? Sometimes I feel like shaking my friends and saying “Look here, I’ve had two live-in relationships, both of which have lasted longer than your current one so if I’m giving advice you should damn well listen!”
But instead they talk to me as though I’ve never known the kind of relationship they have. As though I’ve never fallen into that couple dynamic of taking twenty minutes to plan every meal. As though their decision to stay home on a Saturday night is about being mature and ‘past’ the drinking phase. As though I haven’t been through periods of letting my friendships slide to stay home and watch movies with my boy.
I have been there and I’ve had these relationships fall apart. I look at my friends who are falling into the same bad patterns I did and I want to let them know that it’s not healthy, that they need their own lives, that things will fall apart if they continue along this track. That socializing isn’t a phase to grow out of but a necessary part of life. Instead I just smile and nod as they tell me all about the video they watched last night.
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